Table of Contents
- Get FREE Self Esteem tips sent to your email inbox
- Stop the Self Criticism
- Make a List
- Set Realistic Goals To Build Self-Esteem
- Take Care of Yourself
- Think Positive Thoughts
- Do You Care Too Much About What Others Think?
- Don’t Make Comparisons
- Treat Yourself Well
- Make Good Decisions
- The Truth about Perfection
So how do you build self-esteem in a tough environment? It would be wonderful if we were all living in environments where we felt supported and had mentors to bring out the best in each of us. In reality, life can be a battlefield. People aim pot shots at you and circumstances pull you down.
Using the battlefield metaphor, we should make ourselves bullet proof by choosing the right armor. Life gives us an array of options in this area. Here are some tips you may want to consider as armor to build self-esteem.
Stop the Self Criticism
Find the strength to stop criticizing yourself so much. You cannot expect yourself to be perfect any more than anyone else can.
Make a List
Make an actual ‘pro and con’ list and write down what you do and do not like about yourself. Be specific and resist the impulse to just write things like ‘I hate my hair’. When you are very specific like this, you might find that you have less to dislike than you think.
Set Realistic Goals To Build Self-Esteem
Set personal goals for yourself so you have something to work for, and set up a reward system as well. Resist the urge to make unrealistic goals, however. For example, don’t expect to be able to run five miles the first time you try or attempt to lose 50lbs in a month. Make small, realistic goals and you will always have something to look forward to.
Take Care of Yourself
Eat right, exercise, and get plenty of sleep. Take care of yourself, and take pride in your body and mind.
Think Positive Thoughts
Try to avoid thinking negative thoughts, especially when it comes to yourself. Instead, put those thoughts out of your head and purposely start listing all of the positives around you.
Do You Care Too Much About What Others Think?
Don’t Make Comparisons
It is unrealistic and unhealthy to compare yourself to other people. You are a unique individual; you should take pride in what sets you apart.
Treat Yourself Well
Show yourself a good time every once in a while, or treat yourself to something special. Even small things, like taking the time to indulge in a good book or a home spa treatment, can do wonders for your self-esteem.
Meditation isn’t about sitting cross-legged and humming. It is about taking the time to release your mind and body from all of the stress, closing your eyes, and focusing on centering yourself. It is a great stress reliever and could help you connect with your inner self.
Make Good Decisions
Good self-esteem is also about having self-respect. Making good decisions in all walks of life will help you maintain that self-respect.
The Truth about Perfection
The truth about perfection is that it doesn’t exist. No one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and those mistakes are all part of the adventure of life. Don’t get hung up on things that you might not do just right, or if something isn’t perfect because there is no such thing.
Healthy self-esteem can change your life. People with healthy self-esteem are more likely to make good decisions, work harder towards accomplishment, and live happier lives. With these tips, you can strengthen your self-esteem.